Your Roles and Successes Don’t Determine Your Value

So much of our value as humans is tied up in our roles, accomplishments and the approval of others. We build a sense of self worth from all the things we do to prove ourselves, but when you don't have that external validation, it can leave you feeling empty inside.

The truth is that we are valuable just because we exist. We don't need to achieve anything or be someone special to matter. You were created with purpose and meaning beyond anything you could ever imagine or achieve by yourself. Your value isn't based on what you do or how well you do it—it's inherent in who you are as a person. You were made perfectly by the Universe and this makes you valuable beyond measure!

Your value comes from your very existence.

The first thing to understand is that your value is not connected to your roles or successes. It's not about what you do, but who you are. You are valuable because you exist--not because of anything else.

You are valuable because you are a human being, with thoughts and feelings, hopes and dreams; someone who deserves to be loved and treated with kindness simply for being alive. Your worth is not measured by achievements or titles; instead it comes from simply existing as part of this world...

We don't often connect our self-worth with our essence, but that’s actually where it lives.

We don't often connect our self-worth with our essence. Instead, we tie it to the roles that we play or the successes we achieve. We think that if we are successful in a specific role (like being an entrepreneur, having more money, or receiving public accolades) people will respect us and value us more. But what if those things don't happen? Will we feel worthless? Often times, that's where placing out worth outside of us leaves us. This can become a viscous cycle of always reaching for the next thing. And, if things aren't going well in these external areas, it may start to affect how you feel about yourself.

Our roles in life don't define us.

Your roles, achievements and success don't define you.

You are more than your job title, the number of people who report to you and how much money you make. Your value is not connected to these things, but rather it comes from within.

It's hard for people who have been told their whole lives that they're good at something--and even harder for those who were told they weren't good enough--to accept this fact about themselves. But if we want our lives to be meaningful and fulfilling beyond just surviving every day in some way or another (and let's face it: most of us do), then we need to find ways of connecting with ourselves on deeper levels than just doing whatever task needs doing next. It’s in that deep connection that we find our true value.

Achievements matter, but they aren't all that matters.

Achievements are important. They're what we work towards, what we want to achieve and how we measure our success. They can be big or small--a promotion, a new house or even just getting out of bed on time in the morning. But achievements do not make us valuable.

Achievements don't define us as people; they don't make us happy; they don't make us worthy or special. And yet, so often when we look at others who have achieved more than us (or are happier than us), we think: "I must be doing something wrong." This is one of those lies that keeps people stuck in unfulfilling careers for years longer than necessary because they believe their value is connected directly with their roles and successes rather than their intrinsic worth as human beings capable of love and kindness and generosity towards others. (Note: Those that put all their focus on their career typically have low self-worth and being busy all the time is actually a trauma response.)

If you are struggling with a sense of worthlessness and worthlessness, it's important to remember that your value is not connected to your roles or successes. You are valuable just because you exist. And no matter what happens in life--good or bad--you will always have this value as an inherent part of who you are. It doesn't matter if other people don't see it or acknowledge it; what matters is that they do not take away from who they are unless we let them do so!